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March 15, 2018

It’s never too late! Live your dash

Posted in: My Life

“Starting over” so many people are scared of that phrase. There is absolutely no reason to be. I left the state I grew up in and for the longest time I would say I’m never leaving. I obviously left and it was one of the best decisions I have ever made. After 8 years in Arizona it was time to do it again, I started over. So here’s a kid growing up telling himself that he would never leave New Jersey and live there forever. After all I had been through why wouldn’t I want to leave, Right? Some people would have just stayed and sulked about not being able to leave. My wife and I took the chance. No job and newly married, what did we have to lose? It all works out in ways we may not understand. You put your faith and trust in whatever you believe in and go with it, cause we ALL know you only live once.

I feel like your life is already planned for you, and that you just have to go along and live it the best way possible. The more positive you are about your life the easier it will be for you to see through it. Don’t get me wrong it wasn’t easy at first. The anxiety and mind racing and all the other stuff that comes with it was all there. It took a few months and some counseling for myself to get through the change, but it was ALL worth it.

Only you can make the choice of how to live your life.

If something happens to you and you cant deal with it, seek the help! Talk to your friends/family, heck come here to my blog and read all my posts of the all bad hands that I was dealt and how I got through them. How I had to grow up in a blink of and eye. How I moved across the country twice. How I thought I would have a happy go lucky family growing up. If I sound a little angry, I am, but I have learned to deal with it. I will always have anger and those sad feelings. It’s all ok to have them. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t. My grief has been turned into goodgrievings 🙂

So keep spreading those Positive Vibes, Spread the Love, and Give a hug.


  1. Hi Cuz,

    Exactly dude. One weird thing I see daily online (and offline): folks believe that they are “starting over”. You know who starts over? A baby, LOL! We adults, teens and even little kids are armed with 1, 2, 40, 50 or 100 years of experiencing. This is not starting over, but starting a new journey with tons of experience in your pocket. The slate is never clean. We have so many lessons to call upon. We are starting intelligently, and from a place of clarity, if we are a day past being a newborn.


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