finding the good after loss

the blog

February 17, 2018

“Make life count”

Posted in: Healing, My Grief Story

On this 18th anniversary of the passing of my mother I have come to say “make your life count” Dealing with loss is just brutal. February is and always will be the toughest month to go through. I have grown to accept it, but for a long time I would sulk and be depressed. My moms birthday was last Saturday and her anniversary today. Not only that but 2 years ago on February 20th the world lost the most courageous person I know my god sister Amanda. So as you can see I have plenty of reason to go sit in the corner and be upset, but I choose to live my life through them and make my life count.

I have received a lot of feedback from this blog. Most said it wasn’t for them, another person said “it’s depressing as shit”. I get it, for most people it can be depressing, but this is how I express myself. If it helps just one person then I have done what I came here to do. I see what people read and I often wonder if it’s the same person coming back to check out Good Grievings 😉

My inspiration for the post today is from Tommie Harris. Former Chicago Bears football player. He lost his wife 41 days after being married. Man, I can’t imagine that! He is making his life count and helping others. He could have turned to drinking and drugs, but took the high road and is speaking about it. He says and I quote “death is a thing that happens in life, it’s not a thing that happens to life” (think about that for a minute). That’s deep!

My friends and hopefully return readers. “Make your life count” and try not to be upset for your loved ones are always with (check out my sensing spirit post 😉). As Tommy Harris says “WE CAN ENDOUR THIS”. Watch his video below and really think about what he is saying. You can tell how passionate he is about spreading his word and how he lives his life through his wife. Thank you Tommie for sharing.



  1. Love this T. I am all for making life count. We have the moment so enjoy it, follow your dreams, have fun and help your fellow human. Only way to live.


  2. Anonymous says:

    Thinking of you all today Tom! ❤️ A J

  3. Kim says:

    Thinking of you guys at this difficult time, but glad you’re able to live doing what you want. As long as you continue to be in a situation where you can do so, enjoy!

    • tbiddulph says:

      Thank you Kim, we love the decisions we have made to be where we want to be. You only live once so we have to make it count 😉

Leave a Reply

Thanks for stopping by! Let’s connect.
Fill out this form or email me at

get in touch


let's connect

back to the top