Good Grievings

‘‘Twas the night before Christmas”

‘‘Twas the night before Christmas”

— Read on goodgrievings.com/2018/12/24/twas-the-night-before-christmas/

In 6 days I will be apart an inspirational group of individuals who speak about grief. I’m eager to hear each ones take about grief and how they get through. I met the host of this online summit through Twitter. The whole thing happened so fast. Melo said she found me through another person I followed. Melo then followed me and like I usually do I thanked her for following me and Melo replied back. After a long convo she asked me if I would be interested in joining her summit, which she has done for the past 3 years. I was like hell yea I would love to.

My point to this story is, you never know who is going to literally stumble into your life. Take the time to thank others for things they do for you. Even if it’s little things like following you on a social platform. You never know where it can lead you.

If you wish to be apart of this, and hear how others handle and get through grief. Or if you just wanna listen cause it’s your thing. Click the link below and it will direct you to the site to join.

https://after-chloe.teachable.com/courses/after-chloe-and-friends-online-summit?affcode=129902_prayypt-

Hey all, several weeks ago I was honored to chat with my buddy Jasmine “Jazz” @thiswomenfromnyc on her podcast. We talked about several topics around grief, and also how I handle grief. Click the link below to hear the whole interview.

I chatted with Tom Biddulph who is a fellow blogger extraordinaire who created the blog called Good Grievings (GoodGrievings.com). Having lost his close loved ones, he wanted to establish a place where fellow readers can feel comforted as they go through their stages of grief all while respecting the memories of lost loved ones. In this episode, we shared a soulful conversation discusses about his views on grief, thoughts on his journey reclaiming spirituality and is latest coaching venture.
— Read on anchor.fm/thiswomanfromnyc/episodes/Ep–6–Tom-Biddulph-e7s7ed

I recently was asked a question by one of my new followers this past week that really stumped me.  I really had to think about my answer, even though after I got my answer I said to myself I should have known that.

The question was, What was the most Valuable thing you have learned on your grief journey?   My reply was how much I learned from my Mom in the short 18 years  we had together. Its kinda like If you knew what you knew now back then, things would be different, but you live and you learn.  Its amazing how much you absorb from your parents both good and bad that you don’t realize it until you are older.

I look back and think about all the shit had to handle and all the things I had to make decisions on. I think about it and realize maybe my Mom was living with in me and subconsciously helping me make those decisions…. Since I know she wasn’t ready to die and leave her boy alone in this world. Or maybe it was just me and how I picked up on the things my mom did while she was on this earth.  All I know is that I still have tough decisions to make in life and I know somewhere out there my mom is smiling down saying good job “BUD”

2 questions for you that I would love to find out the answers to

What was your most valuable lesson or thing you have learned on your grief or life journey?

What was one question you were asked to answer that stumped you?

I would love to hear from you.

If I get enough responses I would love to make it into another blog post

Answer away

 

 

 

 

 

If you have tried everything in this world to lesson your anxiety and you can’t grasp why you still feel the way you do, try meditating. When I started meditating 10 weeks ago my anxiety dropped off drastically. I now have the tools to make me gain more clarity and think without reacting to negative situations so quickly. There are plenty of guided meditations on YouTube you can search for. I prefer guided meditations, because it keeps me in the moment, although I have started to try to meditate on my own (not the easiest transition).

I also wanted to thank everyone who listened to my latest podcast over the weekend. I love putting my story and experiences out there for everyone to read and listen to. We all go through shit and I want others to know that you aren’t alone, and don’t have to go through life angry and depressed. That’s why I’m here starting my Intuitive grief coaching to help you gain more clarity. To help you get those feelings out in a private environment. To help you understand that it is ok to smile and be happy while grieving. I will be offering my coaching to anyone interested please feel free to email me at Goodgrievings@gmail.com for more information.

I’m in this with you.

Here is the link to the podcast

https://anchor.fm/thiswomanfromnyc/episodes/Ep–6–Tom-Biddulph-e7s7ed

Last Saturday night I attended a workshop hosted by Barbara. Let me tell you, she is awesome at what she does. She is an awesome soul and is so easy to listen to. I went to this workshop without any expectations. I didn’t not know what was going to happen, which is totally out of my comfort zone. I arrived there and my heart was racing, and I was nervous! Here I am walking into this place with a yoga mat and a bottle of water. I’m even thinking now, this isn’t me. I never use a yoga mat. I knew I had to do this, I kept being pushed and I never hesitated going. As I walk in I am directed on where to go. I place my mat down and took a seat. There were not that many people there yet since you know I had to arrive early.

I sat and waited, still nervous and my anxiety was high, but I felt calm at the same time. I sat and waited, and we started. We went around the room and introduced ourselves. Turns out I was the only male there for a specific reason. There were two other guys there just there for the experience. I knew I was there for more than that. I knew that this was going to start to change my life, even though I was super nervous.

The Mediation started and WOW. Emotions start going and all the shit I was dealing with at the moment was being released. It was an amazing experience. I left there in awe, I texted my wife that I was on my way home. As I got home she asked how it went and I honestly couldn’t put it into words. I was speechless. I was speechless because I have put this meditation thing off for so long. Imagine if I would have started it sooner in life. It is what it is and now I’m here.

The biggest takeaway for me is being grounded and protecting myself. There is so much energy around and I am a person who can sense it and consume it. Meditation is not something that will fix your problems. We are all human, we have to solve our problems our own way. Mediation is a way to make you realize what you are holding onto and can let it go with practice. I’m definitely looking forward to what the next weeks have in store for me. Did you mediate today?

What up what up? So, I know it has been a while since my last post. I have been thinking, working, procrastinating, contemplating, procrastinating a little more and maybe just being lazy. Finally I’m am here, and will be here foreverrerrrr. (Did ya get it? The sandlot!)

Last week while on our trip to Charlotte, NC for our 10yr wedding anniversary getaway (without our kids). My wife and I were finally able to have some really deep conversations without any interruptions. After pushing her to just put her new website out there Alaina, she pushed me to make my announcement with what I want to do in my journey in life.

Below is the actual tweet I sent out. It was so freeing and a huge weight off my shoulders. For now it is more of an accountability factor, since I have a lot of leg work to get this up and going. For now, I will work with my life coach to help me get aligned in my life so that I’m fully ready to help you. Help you deal with life after a loss, deal with grief, maybe just deal with plain old life itself. I want to help you, and give you the advice I didn’t get in my younger years.

Make sure to enter your email at the top of the page on my site, so that you will be notified when my new site is up and I’m ready to guide through grief and really show you goodgrievings

I have had some conversations recently with some cool peeps. These people have confirmed for me that what goes on in my world and what goes on in the spirit world is real. It’s not just my mind playing tricks. I do believe that there aren’t any coincidences, and that there is a reason for absolutely everything. I used to analyze why things happened, and say that this happened cause of this. I mean I still do but I don’t over analyze. I have become more open to a lot. I have become more patient with a lot of situations, therefor letting them play out. For example: at work I lost a couple of employees. I’m like ok now I have to hire some people. Within the last week 2 people have contacted me that already work at others stores. They want to come to my store and work. It just happened like that. It took no effort on my part.

I tweeted the other day on how at the festival we went to, a person on staff gave us food passes and we wound up paying $6 bucks for dinner that night. Things are starting to fall into place little by little. Now it’s time to put more focus on my passion. My passion is making others feeling comforted. Making others feel the way I feel about grief. Making others feel how I feel each day, knowing that the struggle is real, but you don’t have to let the struggle get the best of you. My mom isn’t here with me yes, I struggle with that shit everyday. But I don’t let it get the best of me. Time does heal, but the pain never fades

I stumbled upon a video the other day of a little girl who was very sick and was surrounding by her family. They were all there knowing she was going to pass on. I cried like a baby. I haven’t cried like that since my mom died. You are probably asking why I watched the video? I have no clue, I feel like I was meant to, because I found myself saying that I was so angry with my mom for not being here. By me telling myself that, made me realize that I still grieve over my mom. The pain never fades. Everything happens for a reason. The reason is that I need to let go and stop sweeping the past under the rug. Stop sweeping the shit I need to face under the rug so I can Live My Passion!

So, yea spirit does talk to me. Here is my most recent experience I had was a few weeks ago.

My mother in law had been sick for a couple weeks, so my wife had to take her to the doctor and get a prescription for her. In the midst of doing all that she had to get the kids and get grocery’s and all that good stuff, She went on to tell me that while driving she was starting to get angry that her dad wasn’t here. She said that it should be him that was running around town for his wife to do this, but he couldn’t obviously cause he passed away. My wife was really upset and angry while telling me this story. I let her keep talking even though as soon as she originally said “This should have been him running around for her”. I heard very clearly in my ear him saying “TELL HER I’M SORRY”. I let my wife finish talking and I told her that while she was talking about her dad he told me to to tell you that he is sorry.

This wasn’t the only time I have heard whispers in my ear. Just a few weeks ago, my wife and I were in the car driving and I said something to my wife and I heard very faintly “GOOD JOB SON”. He would always say that to me when he was with us. He would always greet me with a hug and a “Hello Son”. Man I miss him, he was the glue that kept us together. As I wrote plenty of times before. EDDIE is always with me wherever I go. He’s always in the car when I drive to work. He is always in the closet in our bedroom when we are a sleep. Shit, he is next to me right now smiling cause I’m writing about him. I finally realized that he try’s to mess with me throughout the day. My passion and my purpose will come through one fine day.

I just listened to A Jay Shetty Podcast. He said “your passion is what makes you happy, your passion becomes your purpose when you use it to serve others.

Makes ya think, doesn’t it. What’s your passion?

I had the pleasure of chatting with Darwyn last week about my story, and how I deal with grief. We took a dive into why I started my blog, and the counseling I have sought for myself. We also dove into other topics pertaining to grief. Grief is something we all carry, it’s the way we handle grief that makes our lives better. Self care is only one way to go about it. You need to take care of yourself, at the end of the day no one else will. Thank you again man, I appreciate you inviting me on. I look forward to the next time. Click here to listen to the interview.

If today you are having a down day, know that tomorrow is a new day and the way you handle today is the key to a different tomorrow. Peace and love

I was honored to be asked to be a part of a post on grief and loss through TV and or movie. There are plenty of TV series and movies that can make you think of a lost loved. It took me a bit to actually think of  of a specific show. After talking it over with my better half Alaina, I finally decided on one. Thank you to Nicole for the opportunity to Interview

 

What was your TV series and or movie that makes you think of someone that passed?   Why is did you choose this specific one?  How does it relate to your loved one? I would love to here your choice. Send me a message, Email or tweet.    Enjoy the post